I just taught this concept to my online accountability group this morning, and thought I’d share it with everyone.
Whenever we are trying to make changes in our lives, we are essentially changing behaviors we do regularly.
Whether this is starting new behaviors or trying to stop old ones, we are modifying behavior.
In any change we make to our lives there is a game that many of us play that can completely sabotage our progress.
It’s called THE SHAME GAME😳.
It goes something like this:
1. I decide that I need to change a particular behavior. Maybe lose some weight, maybe manage my time better, maybe manage my finances better?
2. I begin trying to change using a new system, products, change agent that promises to help me achieve my goal.
3. I have an EARLY FAILURE in the process.
It’s right here that I have a key decision to make:
Take on perfectionistic thinking that says “if I don’t get it perfect, I won’t to do it at all”.
I see the failure as I step towards learning.
The first option is shame-based and rooted in FEAR. The second option is growth based and has its basis in SELF-VALUE.
If we take OPTION 1, we will generally quit what we are doing and 3 to 4 months later will decide we need to try a different system but the problem is in the system, it’s our mind.
If we choose OPTION 2, we will have GRACE with ourselves and see failures as stepping stones towards greater success. We’ll stay in the game, and actually make progress.👍🏻
If you are trying to change, do your best to avoid THE SHAME GAME by truly leaving behind the thinking that keeps you trapped in a perfectionistic cycle.
YOU are WORTH MORE!❤️